I'm teaching an "Inner Game of Weight Loss" workshop today. Here's a thought, and something I'll be exploring wih the group.
When you put your "best foot forward" and take that first step, which foot is your best foot, and how exactly do you make/take the second step? (Literally, as in using your body). How do you make/take subsequent steps?
As I say, it is just a thought.
Saturday, 5 July 2008
Wednesday, 2 July 2008
EFT, TFT and Tapping...
I keep getting questions about EFT, TFT and tapping. I'm not able to answer all the emails, sorry, because I get so many from people who want to discuss these things in depth and I really don't have all that much spare time (nor interest).
So, in order to answer all the tapping related questions at once, I made this: http://tappingforcash.com
Video and free downloads will be added in due course.
So, in order to answer all the tapping related questions at once, I made this: http://tappingforcash.com
Video and free downloads will be added in due course.
Tuesday, 1 July 2008
Ropes...
I've just returned from an excellent time in Warsaw, Poland, training a group organised by Artur Krol in IEMT. Whilst over there I realised something about how I perceived things as a child. In PE at school, as mentioned previously, I had great difficulty in climbing the ropes. I lacked the strength to pull myself up.
As a child it never occured to me that strength could be increased with exercise. I simply accepted that I wasn't able to climb the ropes and maybe I would be able to as I got bigger. I never made the connection between exercise and body size, shape or strength. Nor did I ever make a connection between what I ate and my body size, etc.
Young anorexics realise this very early. So do the bulimics. And so did the sporty kids who would show off their muscles in the playground.
So, this has led to me wondering about those kids and subsequent adults with weight issues.
Maybe, like myself, they simply don't make the connection.
As a child it never occured to me that strength could be increased with exercise. I simply accepted that I wasn't able to climb the ropes and maybe I would be able to as I got bigger. I never made the connection between exercise and body size, shape or strength. Nor did I ever make a connection between what I ate and my body size, etc.
Young anorexics realise this very early. So do the bulimics. And so did the sporty kids who would show off their muscles in the playground.
So, this has led to me wondering about those kids and subsequent adults with weight issues.
Maybe, like myself, they simply don't make the connection.
Wednesday, 25 June 2008
Law of Threes...
Kushmir asks: "Can you tell me where the Neurological Law of Three comes from, besides you I have not heard any mention of it?"
The Law of threes is the basis of creatting a generalisation. In NLP, if you swish three times in rapid succession, the thing swished is more likely to stick. I've worked with physiotherapists who also find that if they get patients to repeat each exercise three times, it is more likely to generalise, I know teachers who get students to spell new words three times in a row, also to generalise the learnings.
The Law of threes is the basis of creatting a generalisation. In NLP, if you swish three times in rapid succession, the thing swished is more likely to stick. I've worked with physiotherapists who also find that if they get patients to repeat each exercise three times, it is more likely to generalise, I know teachers who get students to spell new words three times in a row, also to generalise the learnings.
Monday, 23 June 2008
Reply to a question....
JPW asks: "How do then make the Movie Making a habit? If before you were in the habit of making still pictures? I've heard Bandler go on about this, but always forget to make movies when making decisions. Any ideas?"
This is a great question and a very important point.
In short: persistance and practice.
NLPers tend to talk about "installing the new behaviour." I try not to poke them hard in the face when I hear such piffle. There are some occasions where "installing a new behaviour" is perfectly possible, and this isn't one of them (as far as I am aware, but I'd love to be shown how).
Thus in weight loss workshops, I'll often get participants to examine three good decisions they have made (/are making), and three bad decisions that they have made (/are making), in order to establish the difference between the two.
Most common is the "movie" vs "slide" difference. Sometimes, both are movies, but the bad decisions are very short and do not include the outcome/consequence.
Another exercise is to get the person to identify three undesired behavioural traits ("bad habits") and to turn the representation of each of these sequentially into a movie...that gets longer, and longer - mapping it out 5, 10, 15, 20, 25 years into the future. Each long movie is then run three times.
It's the neurological learning law of threes.
It becomes quite depressing for the participant to do this. They start to see a different future.
Then, I'll get them to do exactly the same for three positive behaviours they have.
Things become a lot less depressing. They start to see a different future again.
Practice, practice, practice.....
This is a great question and a very important point.
In short: persistance and practice.
NLPers tend to talk about "installing the new behaviour." I try not to poke them hard in the face when I hear such piffle. There are some occasions where "installing a new behaviour" is perfectly possible, and this isn't one of them (as far as I am aware, but I'd love to be shown how).
Thus in weight loss workshops, I'll often get participants to examine three good decisions they have made (/are making), and three bad decisions that they have made (/are making), in order to establish the difference between the two.
Most common is the "movie" vs "slide" difference. Sometimes, both are movies, but the bad decisions are very short and do not include the outcome/consequence.
Another exercise is to get the person to identify three undesired behavioural traits ("bad habits") and to turn the representation of each of these sequentially into a movie...that gets longer, and longer - mapping it out 5, 10, 15, 20, 25 years into the future. Each long movie is then run three times.
It's the neurological learning law of threes.
It becomes quite depressing for the participant to do this. They start to see a different future.
Then, I'll get them to do exactly the same for three positive behaviours they have.
Things become a lot less depressing. They start to see a different future again.
Practice, practice, practice.....
Friday, 20 June 2008
Side Effects....
A commonly reported phenomena from clients with whom I have worked with weight loss is the side effect of increased income. I was thinking about this whilst in the bath this morning, as my own income has increased quite noticably in the time that I decided to lose weight.
One of the psychological aspects I often work with weight loss clients is decision making. too many people make decisions based on still mental representations. This is not good. When decisions are based on movies, we can see the consequences/outcomes of our decision more readily. Still pictures can be very motivating, but when we act on this motivation, we are unlikely to be thinking things through to the consequence.
Still picture: [see cake] + [feel the hunger] = Eat cake.
Movie: [see cake] + [see consequences of eating cake] + [see how miserable I am as results of all the cakes] + [etc] = a better decision.
Imagine two companies. The CEOs of one company only base their decisions [reactively] on today. The other company's CEOs base all their decisions upon a 25 year projection.
Which company is likely to succeed in the long term?
It's a no-brainer.
One of the psychological aspects I often work with weight loss clients is decision making. too many people make decisions based on still mental representations. This is not good. When decisions are based on movies, we can see the consequences/outcomes of our decision more readily. Still pictures can be very motivating, but when we act on this motivation, we are unlikely to be thinking things through to the consequence.
Still picture: [see cake] + [feel the hunger] = Eat cake.
Movie: [see cake] + [see consequences of eating cake] + [see how miserable I am as results of all the cakes] + [etc] = a better decision.
Imagine two companies. The CEOs of one company only base their decisions [reactively] on today. The other company's CEOs base all their decisions upon a 25 year projection.
Which company is likely to succeed in the long term?
It's a no-brainer.
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